That’s fine, just place the documents in the file, and inform the parents, we may need this later, and if so, I’ll just leave it in file.
NOT signing the document at all, will
not anchor the possibility in the parents that it’s needed – FOR THEM- FOR THEIR BABY & BIRTH…
(“we just never signed it, we never believed we needed it anyway and we had a perfect birth") and that’s ok isn’t it?
SOME EXAMPLES OF POSITIVE & NEGATIVE PRIMINGOne OB told one of my mothers expecting twins that when the first twin is born the uterus collapses and we then have to do a C-section for the second one - anyway....
Yes it happens is a small percentage of occurrences, she’s 10 weeks pregnant.
All my mother heard was it HAPPENS EVERY TIME TO EVERY WOMAN WITH TWINS…
"I should have a c-section anyway".
That’s association, she’s anchored into the state and believes it’s going to happen to her too.
Another MW told a mother that is a VBAC and due shortly, that she will only have 4 minutes before she and her infant die after the UTERUS RUPTURES.
Uterine Rupture after C-Section is a small percentage of cases- My mother didn’t even hear the statistics, just agreed instantly, best to birth in the hospital. This mother is extremely healthy, well prepared and ready for this baby! Is this negative priming? What’s the objective of the MW?
What’s she attempting to manipulate here?
As you start to look at what is best for your client, often leaving all this technical medical information out of the weekly interviews is really best
One MD here in Vancouver told his patient, my client that “she could stop worrying …he wasn’t worried, and that she could be sure that everything would work out perfectly. Probably the best thing she could do would be to relax and let go of the outcome, because he had it all in hand”.
She signed all the consent forms…she’s totally confident in him and in her…
We have choices, we can do this differently. Fear, & terror are causing our world a lot of unnecessary drama and medical bills. What if we looked at things a little differently? Like birth is normal, it’s a normal process for a woman.
Births have happened everywhere on this planet without all the fear tension and pain and for a long time….because we now have 5billion people on the planet today, some of us surely survived.
The mechanisms within the mother are the keys to a gentle birth, when you agitate them with negative priming you are interrupting that delicate hormonal balance within her.
How do you feel about relinquishing this kind of control and letting the mother do the process while you support?
Visualize yourself in this way:
If you knew your presence in the birthing room with that mother was giving her way more assistance towards her birth than any medical interventions you can provide and see yourself smiling as you touch her, advising her to breath deeply through every "surge" or "wave" instead of "contraction".
Even as baby's head is crowning advising her to listen to her body, breath deeply and just nudge baby down with her breath gently, easily and to follow her body's lead. Affirming to her, "mother directed pushing is so much better for you and baby, and you are doing great".
Can you see yourself assuring her things are going great, can you see yourself supporting her with your intention of everything going well?
You might even see yourself remaining calm and using a soft voice instead of one that is commanding, and knowing that that voice is reaching her on a much deeper level, because suggestions offered at that level are being heard by her inner mind that is in Soft Focus.
The only reason Doula's and Labour Support people are gaining a career in hospital births is because they are doing these kinds of things for mom, dad and baby. The nurses could too and perhaps regain the support and trust of the patients rather than have them in fear, tension & pain...which can stop labour for hours even days!
Some nurses do this…and they do it in seconds of meeting the new parents…and it’s an awesome experience to watch.
And not only the younger nurses either, one nurse I birthed with as on her last day at the hospital. She’d birthed thousands of babies and was retiring, at 72 year old British RN….she was amazing around keeping things normal and moving along. Little affirmations like, “this mom knows what she’s doing”
“lets give her a little more time” “there’s good trust here between mom and dad” “She’s doing great, let’s let her take her time”.
She only got things for this mom when asked….she never offered drugs, gas or anything unless mom asked. Monitors were used however, she often would say to us,
“these things are useless they get used here, however as baby moves lower and lower the new RN’s go into panic attacks because suddenly it looks like the heart rate is 82. That’s just picking up mom. Some of the younger nurses don't know how to read the mother because they only look at the monitors."
She also told us that when baby moves under the pubic bone, the machine doesn’t work right either and everyone is freaking out thinking the baby is in stress with no heart beat, but you just move the monitors and there’s baby again….but the read outs show “sudden dips & breaks” and that gets everyone excited. And it’s a record in the chart.
In home births we don’t have these, and no one sets off panic buzzers because the monitors are reading something off the scales.
MW’s listen to baby’s heart periodically, they rarely check mom, because they know what’s happening with her as they watch her. They aren’t attending 6 other women at the same time, often they curl up and snooze or appear to, so that mom feels a sense of “nothing important going on here”…just birthing.
Hospitals are different, for all the reasons recounted and the difference is like the Santa Clause story versus the Christmas Story…and yet both are just experiential illusions based on ones beliefs!
We provide the NLP Practitioner & Master Practitioner training programs….and it’s just a brilliant technology for birthing!
You are going to find examples of it streaming through your business in the near future, because doctors already have buy in. They are taking the training, and it's going to open up a new layer of communication between patient and practice! And if it flows from the top down, once again, to me that takes time, valuable time.
If however, the RN’s and MW’s and all care providers knew these fundamental basics about brain communication, mirror neurons and the understanding of just how the patient is thinking...feeling....hearing...what you are saying, then things could be very different for everyone.
And it doesn't take a psych degree either, just 9 days and you are into a whole new world of understanding!
You can contact Raquel or myself for upcoming dates on NLP Certification and we will gladly come to you with the training program if you have 8 or more interested in attending -
www.thoughtmodels.com for details.
Also keep an eye on Conscious Woman as we'll be scheduling an NLP 9 day intensive in Boulder Late Fall 2009.
