The Planned Cesarean Section
My parents were professionals, he a business owner and pilot, she an medical physician.
They both had busy lives and heavy commitments and now a baby!
They started sessions with me shortly after the 4th month. Everything progressed perfectly and all the work we did together moving us towards the birth experience they wanted for their child and themselves.
It was to be home, in water, with midwives attending.
This woman and her mother had some long outstanding issues and she had forever been the caretaker for the family. Not just her siblings but also her mother and her drinking problems. She wasn’t quite the carpet under their feet, however, they had regularly trashed her life with their behaviors and lack of respect for who she was. Her husband was patient and supportive.
As the birth neared the mother took extra special opportunity to create chaos and difficulty and the managing of this really was out of anyone’s control. Finally her husband put his foot down and asked the family to remain away until after the birth.
The next session, my mom presents in a full Frank Breech. She’d been cleaning the bathroom, and the tub and leaned over to reach a far corner and felt baby do the big summersault in her tummy.
We were two weeks out from the “due in date” and baby was not budging. In fact she had her feet crossed and head under mom’s diaphragm she was staying put!
We tried everything, including some private sessions which were great in clearing issues between she and her own mother, however, baby was not budging.
The Midwives had given her a week, and then referred her to an OB. The OB said it could be done, however it would involve a lot of twisting and turning of baby and baby might not stay in that position.
We regrouped the week before. Looked at all the options and possibilities and outcomes and various potentials. Then reviewed it all again!
Finally the decision was made, and they agreed to simply allow their daughter her space, and both of them to surrender the birth and allow it to flow effortlessly, as effortlessly as they could. A C-Section was agreed to.
The doctors scheduled it for the following Tuesday morning and we met for a last session the Friday before.
This time we changed a lot. We added permissions for this infant, we connected to her fully and let her know her position was not going to be taken from her.
We then prepared the cells around the area where the incision would take place, and I guided mom to let them know, this was coming.
During the procedure she would be listening to the induction again and allowing the cells to accept the incision, with little bleeding and when it was complete had her visualizing the cells in the area of the incision returning to their normal position as quickly and effortlessly as possible. There would be little to no bleeding and baby would effortlessly release in a minimum of upset to herself, her body and to her baby.
Through the whole procedure she was to stay focused on baby and opening her heart to baby. Through the weekend she and her husband would spend it together and just fall in love again! They did, they danced, they walked, they slept, they played with baby and her things and rested.
Tuesday morning the procedure started at 11 am and baby was born at 11:28.
Three days later they went home, and I visited them on the following Friday just a week since we had done the preparation induction! She was glowing, the incision almost disappeared. The third day had been the hardest and yet it is for any new mother and she relaxed knowing this was not too different for her either then.
She was smiling and within the following weekend out walking with baby. Baby was quiet, sleeping, easy to feed, easy to be with, there was no shift in baby from any other infant that had experienced the pregnancy of relaxation, peace and preparation.
Mom was elated. We reframed a few little concerns mom had about whether she should have tried harder, and I reminded her, we’d already accepted this was what her daughter had chosen and she had agreed.
It was the start of a new legacy within their family. One where the mother pays attention to the daughter, and does not ask the daughter to sacrifice her journey to her mother.
Oh and the Dad? Well, he was over the moon with his family of women and a whole new level of determination to protect both his daughter and his wife from the external world!
So he kept the rollicking external family at bay for 40 days and 40 nights!
Perfect healing, no lesions, adhesions, pain or suffering. Meds to a low minimum, pain almost nil.
Recovery within a week, 5 weeks of gentle care and total healing without further issues.
Another beautiful birth – Door number three,